Monday 22 October 2012

Reflections


Reflections      

I have just been considering reflections with the new sun catchers that have just gone up for sale on the website.
The way the light enters the crystal then reflects the light back out into the world, splitting the white light into rainbow colours is beautiful.

In life we often take time out to reflect upon ourselves, am I kind, have I done the right thing, would I have done things differently? All usual questions that we often ask ourselves. In fact I was going to write this a week ago, but I needed time to reflect upon what I wanted to say, ironically.


What is it to reflect?

Well to me it means different things.
Firstly to reflect is to have an awareness of yourself.  Life is busy for many people and not so busy for some.  Regardless of what we do or do not do in our day we have interactions with ourselves or with other people. An interaction with our self is how we view who we are, who we want to be, where we want to be and what we think or believe of others . Basically we are full of judgments of who we are and judgement for others as well as contradictions.  To be reflective is to be able to question our  behaviour and our judgements rationally.  To compare and to contrast how a situation could have been handled is often done in hindsight rather done with foresight. Hindsight  is a wonderful  luxury  as long as you learn from it, for if a similar situation arises again at least you know you have the option of handling it differently. Foresight is when rational thought occurs before action. Being able to assess a situation and what a possible outcome could be depending upon the most appropriate response/action is a useful skill to practice. To be reflective I think takes honesty to really take a close look at yourself, your surroundings, your behaviour, thoughts and emotions, you are after all  multi faceted (and doesn’t mean having a permanent out of body experience watching what is going on). All it takes is a desire to be better  for change to happen.

 No one personality is perfect, often it’s full of contradictions picked up through habits learnt through life. To take a step back and have a good look is really useful. If you can’t see then ask a close friend for an honest opinion. Quite often we have a blind spot to our personality that we are completely unaware of that can be quite destructive to ourselves as well as friends and family.

This takes me onto reflection.

“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”
― Rumi

 

Life is fascinating as it has the potential to teach us so much about who we are as long as we have the eyes to see. When you walk down the street smiling, the world smiles back, if you walk down the street sad the world is sad back. However you choose to be in the day, pay attention to how people respond to you, as you are after all seeing yourself through others. Usually it’s not somebody else that is the problem, it’s what you are being that is. So choosing to be in a more useful state can lead to a more contented life. Something’s in life you can change like behaviour,   something’s you cannot change. Check your attitude then change it for a better one. Being self aware is taking personal responsibility for who you are. If there is unhappiness then find the cause and make the change. Change can sometimes be difficult,  sometimes it can be easy especially when the final result leads to the same place, happiness.

“People want you to be happy.
Don't keep serving them your pain!

If you could untie your wings
and free your soul of jealousy,

you and everyone around you
would fly up like doves.”
― Rumi

 

By an imperfect personality that is always working upon itself to be better. Thanks for the reflections.

Bev